What are your deepest fears???


“Madame, what are your deepest fears”.
A friend who was totally engrossed in the Coach Carter movie, looked in my direction and put this out of the blue question to me.
I stood there almost dumb, and the first questions that reached my lips were
“What’s doing this one? ‘Which kain yeye fear question be this”?
The question lingered in my head for a while, as I thought deeply in search of the answer to this question so nicely crafted.
As a present generation woman, I no go lie, my fears boku, and it became a relief to me having them penned.

I feared rejection; and that I was below the social set standards and unfit for my circle of friends. I looked and admired bold and confident women and then, I would recoil into the shell I had made my nest, my own hideout.
I was scared to speak out because I was uncertain of the public response, so I preferred to be unheard. Thus, I was comfortable being the tiny voice behind the loudest one.
I doubted that I would ever accomplish all the things I had in my head, all my abstract dreams.
As a result, I was taunted by the thoughts of living the common standards of life and not wanting change because of the risks I felt was involved; though deep down, I wanted to make a difference, and live way above those standards.

Seeing the movie ‘coach carter’, I made a decision to move past those fears, to break loose from its limiting chains, thus becoming my own woman.
Marianne Williamson’s words came quickly to mind whenever these limiting thoughts surfaced. And in her words, I think I sourced my strength. Little wonder, it was quoted by the great Nelson Mandela.

Taking her words to heart, gives you and me the strength to live adventurous lives. It calls us ladies to think our lives through and discover who we truly are, and want to be, the heights of greatness we want to reach, and then gives us the boldness to overcome these fears and doubts. Most of all, it encourages us young women, to take a leap of faith without fear into the unknown.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

–Marianne Williamson

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